मर्द को दर्द होता है ......

Jack and Jill went up the hill to fetch a pail of water. Jack fell down and broke his crown and Jill came tumbling after.... What happened next? They both started crying in pain and called out to their parents.  Mom and Dad pacified Jill, as being a girl, it was OK for her to cry. Do you know what they said to Jack? They said, "Jack, stop crying, boys don't cry!" 

During the past couple of days, voices have been raised to address issues related to mental health and we're constantly receiving messages that say, "Crying is perfectly fine and it is not something to be ashamed of". But, let me ask you a question.  Does the society accept EVERYONE who cries? The answer,  sadly,  is no. In today's era, where feminism is in limelight,  there is a serious topic which is lurking in shadows - TOXIC MASCULINITY. 

Since ages, human civilisations have expected men to be strong, unflinching and supportive in every situation.  Under our indigenously created gender norms, men are always supposed to be devoid of any emotion. If, accidentally,  they do showcase their emotional side to the onlookers,  it becomes a threat to their so called masculinity. Unfortunately,  men can only be trained to SUPPRESS their feelings. They can't be trained not to feel anything,  as, let's face it,  we don't know how to convert humans into robots yet. The result of this partial training is that men tend to bottle up their feelings , and in fear of breaking societal norms,  refuse to share anything emotional or "girly" to their loved ones.  The obvious outcome is the manifestation of depression that often continues to ruin minds, unaffected by all the "Be a man!" comments.  

This lethal cycle of depression will continue unless and until we accept the fact that crying is not something associated with women or men, rather, is fundamental to the very existence of humankind as a whole. So, the next time when men LEND you a shoulder to cry on, do remember that they also NEED a shoulder to cry on; as ultimately, 

मर्द को दर्द होता है 

औरत को भी दर्द होता है 

क्योंकि इंसान को दर्द होता है 

इंसानियत की डोर को थामे रखिये जनाब,  

क्योंकि इस दर्द को मिटाने का जरिया भी 

इंसान ही होता है।  

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Bbye 

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